Violent No More Workbook

This workbook is intended to be used in conjunction with the book Violent No More: Helping Men End Domestic Abuse, Third Edition.

The exercises in the Violent No More Workbook are specifically designed to help men who batter understand, monitor, and stop their abusive and controlling behavior. Also included are exercises designed for couples who are working through basic relationship issues such as negotiating, communicating, compromising, and disagreeing without becoming abusive or controlling.

Mental health counselors or facilitators in domestic abuse programs make the book Violent No More and the Violent No More Workbook available to men in their domestic abuse groups or the clients they are seeing on an individual basis. Some programs provide the book and workbook to participants as part of their fee; others require participants to purchase the book and workbook, or contribute to the cost. The Violent No More Workbook is an easy to use, step-by-step process that is written directly to men.

Men who batter can change if they have the courage and motivation to change. The exercises in this workbook will help them on their journey.

Michael Paymar, MPA, has worked in the domestic abuse prevention field for over thirty years. He and his colleague the late Ellen Pence authored the groundbreaking curriculum Creating a Process for Change for Men Who Batter, the most widely used treatment model in the world. They worked together at the pioneering Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, Minnesota, creating the Duluth Model. He wrote the award-winning documentary With Impunity: Men and Gender Violence. As a member of the Minnesota House of Representatives for almost two decades, Michael Paymar authored legislation to combat domestic and sexual abuse and sex-trafficking. In the third edition of Violent No More and in this accompanying workbook, Michael provides insight into gender violence and offers hope for men who want to change their behavior and live violence-free lives.
"Finally, someone has written a book for men in offender groups, rather than for those of us who facilitate them. Paymar's book is written to men, using the voices of men. It poses the most central question to men who batter--how did I get here and what does it take for me to change?" -- Ellen Pence, Ph.D., founder of Duluth Domestic Abuse Intervention Project

"A highlight of the book is the many inspiring stories by individual men of their violence and their process of change. This book should convince any man that we can and must stop violence against women." -- Paul Kivel, author of Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence that Tears Our Lives Apart