You didn't love wrong. You just learned to love from fear.
If you've ever:
Waited hours for a reply that never came
Questioned if you were "too much" for needing reassurance
Shrunk yourself to avoid being abandoned
Loved harder just to be chosen by someone who made you feel unsafe...
Then this book is your mirror - and your turning point.
I Just Wanted to Feel Safe is not a guidebook. It's a voice that finally puts your heartbreak into words. It's a soul-to-soul conversation for anyone who's tired of surviving relationships that make them feel anxious, invisible, or never enough.
Through raw, emotionally powerful storytelling, Ziyanda Thabethe walks you through the lived experience of anxious attachment - not from a therapist's chair, but from inside the very heart that's been there. Every chapter speaks the unspoken: the panic behind silence, the ache to be chosen, the exhausting cycle of proving your worth while secretly believing you're unlovable.
This book won't tell you to "just love yourself more."
It will remind you that love was never supposed to feel like fear in the first place.
If you've been ghosted, breadcrumbed, gaslit, or gutted by the kind of love that makes you question your own sanity - this is where you reclaim your voice, your peace, and your power.
You don't have to keep chasing love to feel worthy.
You don't have to keep calling pain "passion."
You don't have to stay in survival mode just to feel close to someone.
You were never too much - you were just never made to feel safe.
This is the book that helps you feel again.
Choose you again.
And finally stop waiting for love to prove what you already are.