No More Chasing: The Psychology of Letting Go of Toxic Love and Rewiring Yourself for Secure Relatio

Discover how the psychology of attachment-and the trauma-informed path to healing-can help you finally break free from toxic love and create emotionally secure relationships.

We already turn to psychology to understand anxiety, trauma, and self-worth. Why not use that same wisdom to transform how we love? In this groundbreaking guide, counseling psychologist and cognitive behavioral therapist Lewanda Smith offers a powerful blend of emotional insight, psychological science, and real-life compassion to help readers identify and unlearn the patterns that keep them stuck in painful relationships.

Drawing from the most respected models of attachment theory, trauma recovery, and nervous system regulation, No More Chasing helps readers uncover how past wounds create present-day relationship struggles-and how to shift from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized patterns into secure, grounded connection. You'll learn how to recognize red flags, stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, heal attachment wounds, and reclaim your ability to love without losing yourself.

- Anxious individuals often fear abandonment and overextend themselves to maintain connection
- Avoidant individuals tend to withdraw or shut down to avoid emotional overwhelm
- Secure individuals know how to stay open, set boundaries, and build lasting trust

No More Chasing guides readers in identifying their attachment style, interrupting self-sabotaging patterns, and becoming a safe, loving presence for themselves and others. With clinical depth and deep empathy, this book is a roadmap for anyone ready to stop performing for love-and start experiencing the peace of emotional safety.