Are you a woman raised by a narcissist mother? If so, then it doesn't matter whether you are 20 or 60, whether she is long since gone or still alive, you have deep wounds. They might have healed, but the scars are still there. A memory might sneak in, then a simple thought: "How could she " - and the pain floods your heart. If this is you, a flower stomped on mercilessly by the very person who was supposed to love you the most, I can understand like no other. I hope my stories will help you.