the truth about black sheep is that our shine was too bright and our families couldn't handle us shining our lights in an orbit that didn't reflect, first, back upon them . . . just like abused housewives, we were suppressed so we wouldn't attract too much attention and recognize our power . . . black sheep are witnesses and in a dysfunctional world, the dysfunctional want, more than anything, to silence the witness(es) to their dysfunction