Why Are You Acting That Way?: A Guide to the Remarriage of a Survivor

Everyone has a story, and Pamela's is not unlike others that she has encountered. There are many people, both men and women, who have suffered at the hands of those who should have been protecting them. Parents are supposed to protect and comfort their children, and husbands are supposed to love and cherish their wives. This is the fairy tale of the perfect life, one seen in movies and on TV, where moms were perfect, with husbands who loved them and their children. Instead, there are the secret families, those where shame prevails. The victims of these unhealthy families are like wounded soldiers showing a brave face to the world but secretly suffering an indescribable pain within.

When Pamela realized that her reaction to her past had affected all her relationships, she decided to investigate the effects of her difficult childhood and identify behavior patterns that had developed over the years. This was the first step to healing and recovery. She wrote this document for her fiance, so he could understand her reactions to incidents that triggered memories of her past. She remarried in 2007 and is still married. This is a miracle, one that only God could provide by revealing behavior patterns that were sabotaging her relationships.