We all need to understand things do not happen to us; things happen for us. Things happen for us to learn the lessons we need to learn. If you will look at the things that happen to us as a loving learning lesson, forgiveness becomes much easier. Forgiveness enables us to keep our hearts pure before Yahweh (God). This is your best witness to draw people to Yahweh (God).
In Matthew 6:14-15, Yahshua (Jesus) makes it very clear that we must forgive to be forgiven. He says, "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins" (Matthew 6:14-15).
Forgiving is not condoning! It is releasing the other person and yourself so that you can both grow in faith and love. You do not have to condone the wrongdoing. You do have to forgive the doer of the wrong if you want to be healthy, happy, and free. After all, the doers will have to learn his or her own lesson for doing wrong to someone. We are to hate the sin and love the sinner.
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